In life many people can become “stuck in a rut”.在许多人的生活能够成为"一卡在车辙". Not just others but ourselves as well.不只是因为别人而是自己. But what it is caused by and who dug this nasty trench in the road of life?但究竟是谁造成这种恶劣挖战壕的人生之路?
The answer lies in understanding the nature of the formation of our own self image, which is governed, generally, by others.答案在于认识性质形成自己的自我形象,这是一般由他人.
All people come into this world as innocent children, and I’m sure as any parent would attest to, the children have a basic nature and personality.所有进入这个世界的人是无辜的儿童,我敢肯定,任何家长都证明,孩子们有一个基本性质和性格. That telling glimpse in the eye of an infant is the give away.一瞥,告诉婴儿的眼睛是白白. As the child grows he/she is influenced by many factors.随着儿童的成长,他/她是受多种因素影响. The major factor would probably be the people who spend the most time with the child in those early years.主要原因可能是人花最多时间与孩子在这些早年. Also the influence of peers and society play an important role.同侪影响,社会也发挥了重要作用. Every minute the person spends with these people, they are projecting onto them, who “they” think the other person is, and especially in the case of parents, who they want the child to be.每一分钟的人,这些人花,他们预测到,那些"他们"认为对方是,特别是家长,他们希望那些孩子要.
The projection of a parent onto the child, of whom the parent wants the child to be, may not always be in line with who the child wants to be, or even who society wants the child to be.估计到孩子的父母,其中父母想要孩子,未必符合人想要孩子,甚至社会人士想要孩子.
As the child grows they generally progress through life living out all the projections they have received from others.由于儿童的成长进步,通过他们一般生活居住的所有推算出他们已收到来自他人. In the case of a person who is very strong or determined to find “happiness”, they will often try everything and if they are lucky eventually find who they truly are and achieve real “happiness” or fulfilment .在一个非常强的人还是决心寻找"幸福"、他们往往千方百计而一旦他们真正的幸运者终于找到并实现真正的"幸福"或专递. These people are rare and not worth thinking about because they don’t need anyone’s help anyway.这些人并不少见,值得思考,因为他们不需要任何人的帮助无论如何. The people that are of interest for the purpose of this article are the people that are “stuck in a rut” and not happy, since this probably accounts for most people.有兴趣的民众为目的的人,这篇文章是"一卡在车辙"和不快乐,因为这大概占大多数人.
So back to the original question, a person in a rut is probably someone who has been living their lives in the way that has been projected upon them by others since birth and not living how they really want to be living.所以回到原来问题一位墨守陈规可能有人一直住在他们生活的方式已预计别人对他们如何生活,而不是自出生真想住. But living their lives in this way will always create inner conflict which can often be perceived by the observer in many ways.但这样的生活生命永远创造内在冲突往往可以看出其中的观察员在许多方面. Such ways are listed below and not all of them:这种方式并不能全部列举如下:
• Clear signs of dissatisfaction●明显的不满
• Low self esteem (can be expressed as over confidence)●低自尊(可以表现为对信心)
• Bad health●不良卫生
• Depression•抑郁症
• Destructive habits like smoking, drug use, overeating etc.(no body really, deep down wants to suffer)●破坏性习惯喜欢吸烟,吸毒、暴食等(没有身体真的想要深处受苦)
How often have we heard other people say “who would give me a job”, “no one would like someone like me” …..多久没有听到别人说:"谁给我一份工作""没有人会像我一样":: But then you get to know the person and they are a kind, gentle, intelligent and funny person .但是当你结识的人,他们都是一个样,温柔,聪明而有趣的人. It is a complete paradox, you can see who they really are but they can’t see it because they have been led to believe they are something else.它是一个完整的悖论,你可以看到他们,但他们真的是看不到了,因为他们相信他们已有一种东西. Look at our chronically unhealthy nation (Australia), sadly following in the footsteps of America.看看我们的民族长期不健康(澳大利亚),可惜美国后尘. Why do we now have problems with obesity in children, who are these people trying to be.为什么我们现在有问题的肥胖儿童,他们这些人是不是可以.
But how is it possible to change this, make the person start to see who they really are, and help them get moving on the path of life.但是如何才能改变这种,使那些人看到他们确实开始,并帮助他们在前进的道路上取得人生. The answer is simple.答案很简单. We must deeply look at the person and picture that person as they really are in our minds.我们必须深入了解的人,看看那人是因为他们真的在人们心中. This change of our own inner perception can be the starting point of their change.这种变化自己内在知觉可以改变自己的起点. As we change our own inner perceptions, that person will start to know they have support outside the rut.正如我们改变我们自己内在知觉,此人将开始知道他们支持外车辙. Even on a physical level, the person will see it in our expressions and start to gain self confidence to move into the mould they really wants to be in. You will be supporting them against everyone else who has been binding them in the cage of their projected illusions.即使是在身体上,人会看到我们的表情和开始获得自信迁入模具他们真想进来你会被所有人对支持他们的人已约束他们的笼子了预期的幻想.
The physical level is not the only level this occurs on.实物水平不是唯一发生这种水平. It has been proven by quantum physicists that the act of observing something changes it.它已经证明,量子物理学家们遵守法令有所变动. Looking at an electron through a microscope actually freezes its position in time and space and essentially creates the electron.通过电子显微镜看实际冻结其在时间和空间的本质产生电子. But really the electron doesn’t exist in any one spot with any certainty; it is all a matter of probability.但真的不存在任何一个电子现货与任何确定性;这完全是基于概率. This is not the place for a physics lesson, but if you wish to read further then I recommend a book called “The Field” by Lynne McTaggart.这不是一个地方物理课但如果你想读那我再推荐一本叫"实地"沃尔斯特McTaggart. Or even just do a search on the Heisenberg Principle .甚至只是做搜索的海森堡原理.
So basically when we see something, we are not really seeing something as it really is, because there is no such thing.所以基本上当我们看到了,我们是不是真正见到那般实在,因为没有这回事. This can be observed through the ways in which people perceive the same thing differently.这可以通过观察人们如何在不同的对待一样. As we look at something and give it a picture, we actually help to create it.大家看看,给一个有照片,其实帮助我们去创造.
Consider this.考虑. What would happen if a drunken person walked in the room screaming obscenities at everyone, and everyone looked at that person as a hurt person who needed some love, welcomed that drunken person into the room and asked them what the problem was.假如一个人走在房间醉酒淫秽对着大家大喊,大家看看那人伤害了一些人需要爱,醉酒的人表示欢迎,并请他们进入房间什么问题. Now consider the drunk person did the same and everyone in the room got scared or annoyed and told him he couldn’t swear in the room and started being “authoritarian” with him.醉酒的人正做着同样的考虑,每个房间有害怕或讨厌,跟他他不能发誓,并开始在房间被"权威",云云. The mans behaviour was possibly a result of some “authoritarian” person in the past, and the pattern would just continue.满族的行为可能导致某些"权威"的人,在过去,只想继续格局. The rut would still remain.追寻仍将继续存在.
Projecting onto a person can be tricky business.投射到一个人可以刁钻业务. Are we really seeing who the person wants to be?我们真的想要见到什么人? Or are we just seeing another rut?还是我们刚刚看到另一个发情? Does the person like the rut they are in?没有人跟他们是在发情? Do they really want to change?他们真的想改变?
The answer to these questions is also simple.这些问题的答案也很简单. Most people have an idea of what they want to do next.大多数人都知道他们要做些什么. This can be perceived in subtle ways.这可以视为在微妙的方式. The next thing they want to do may not be what they really want to be doing and it may be just another projection from another body, but it doesn’t matter.下一步他们想做什么,他们未必真想做它可能只是另从另一个体投影,但不要紧. If that’s what the person think is next, or that’s where they want to be, then so be it.如果说的是什么人认为明年或者这正是他们希望做的话. They may need to experience something different as a stepping stone.他们可能要经历不同的踏脚石. They may need to try it in order to discover it is not really them.他们可能要尝试以发现不是真. Never the less it’s a ladder out of a rut, and most people know what it is.从来少的阶梯走出墨守陈规,大多数人知道它是什么. It may not be perfect for them, and you may even know this, but it doesn’t matter.它可能不是十全十美的人,你甚至知道这一点,但不要紧. As a teenager I did many things which were not really “me”, but I chose to experience them in order to “know for sure” that wasn’t what I wanted.作为一名少年,很多事情我并没有真正的"我",但我选择了他们的经验,为了"知道",这不是我想要. I needed to live out the projections of others, just to prove to myself I didn’t like it.我需要活推算出别人,只为证明自己,我不喜欢它. I desired the experiences.我想要的经验.
So as a conclusion I feel the best we can do for others is to look deep into the goodness of their hearts and try to find out what the person really wants next.所以我觉得作为一个结论我们最多只能是为他人深究善内心和尝试找出真想下一人. After discovering this, we need to picture that person in that role, and give them all the encouragement we can.这一发现,我们需要了解此人在这种作用,并给予鼓励,我们的一切工作. Even if that role doesn’t seem possible to us, that is our own perception of the situation and we should not project it onto others.即使这种作用似乎并不可能,这是我们自己的认知情况,不要把它推给别人. Instead we should believe anything is possible.而我们应该相信什么是可能的. We should start to create the situation for that person by creating an image of it in our own minds.要从创造的局面,创造一个人在自己心中的形象. Why not start with ourselves.为什么不从自己做起. Try it and see.试一试吧.
8th of July, 20062006年7月8日
